Spiritual Growth

Cultivating Self-Discipline is Best Done Gently

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Self-discipline is tricky. In the movies, there is always a big motivating factor, and then a montage of activity toward a goal, and finally a triumphant success. In real life, it rarely works that way. We get the initial burst of energy. We make a plan. We do it faithfully for a few days. And then our old habits and … [Read more...]

Working With Confusion and Uncertainty

spinning in circles can be fun

Confusion or indecision can be unsettling and uncomfortable. Sometimes the desire to know and be certain is so overwhelming that we can work ourselves into an anxious state simply because we don't know yet. Our Culture Has Little Room for Uncertainty Part of what makes it so hard is that modern culture emphasizes … [Read more...]

Has Your Ego Co-Opted Your Growth Work?

growth feels good

As a self-proclaimed self-help junkie, I can attest that it can get confusing. Am I becoming happier or learning more ways to name my unhappiness? Am I becoming more open-hearted and curious, or learning more clever ways to act wise and knowing? Am I working on myself to awaken to my true nature and release … [Read more...]